library · The relationship
The relationship
Noticing, repairing, remembering what matters, making time.
Why this category exists, and at this size: F1.5 (the mental load as the compound of cognitive and emotional labour); guarded by N5. The finding IDs are in the evidence base.
Groups
| Group | Tasks |
|---|---|
| Paying attention to each other | 3 |
| Being the one the children talk to | 2 |
| Working through things | 4 |
| Time together | 3 |
On their own
Tasks in this category that are not part of a group.
| Task | How often | Minutes | Takes out of you | Sits in your mind | Breaks your day | The doing | The carrying |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Find and defend time for yourself against everyone else's needs cognitive only | once a week | 3 | a little | on your mind | needs a slot | 0.06 | 1.21 |
| why The counterweight row. It is in the library because it is the first thing squeezed and the last thing anybody counts — not as a wellbeing prompt. | |||||||
Something missing, or something weighted wrong?
This is the part of Champignon that is genuinely unfinished, and the part a person outside this household can fix. Two routes, neither of which needs an account:
- Something we don't have — a task you do that isn't listed here.
- A weight that looks wrong — tell us which row, and what it should sit above or below. A comparison is actionable; feels wrong on its own isn't.
What happens next, and how a weight actually changes, is on Contribute.