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Working through things

4 rows. A group is the level between a category and a task: one thing a person could hand over whole, split into the rows it actually takes. The app shows groups collapsed and lets you answer at either level.

Task	How often	Minutes	Takes out of you	Sits in your mind	Breaks your day	The doing	The carrying
Smooth things over between people in the household	once a week	15	draining	on your mind	mostly flexible	0.32	1.21
Do the repair after a disagreement	every couple of months	60	wipes you out	never leaves your head	mostly flexible	0.15	1.11
Be the one who raises the thing that needs saying	twice a year	60	wipes you out	never leaves your head	fits anywhere	0.05	1.04
why Energy 5 and vigilance 5. Carried for weeks before it is said, and draining to say. One of the clearest cases in the library of a task whose cost bears no relation to its clock time.
Have the conversation about how things are going between you	twice a year	90	draining	on your mind	mostly flexible	0.07	0.74

Which households get these

A new household is seeded from its own answers, so most of these rows only appear where they apply.

Be the one who raises the thing that needs saying — not seeded into a new household — found by searching
Do the repair after a disagreement — not seeded into a new household — found by searching
Have the conversation about how things are going between you — not seeded into a new household — found by searching
Smooth things over between people in the household — not seeded into a new household — found by searching

Something missing, or something weighted wrong?

This is the part of Champignon that is genuinely unfinished, and the part a person outside this household can fix. Two routes, neither of which needs an account:

Something we don't have — a task you do that isn't listed here.
A weight that looks wrong — tell us which row, and what it should sit above or below. A comparison is actionable; feels wrong on its own isn't.

What happens next, and how a weight actually changes, is on Contribute.