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Being the one the children talk to

2 rows. A group is the level between a category and a task: one thing a person could hand over whole, split into the rows it actually takes. The app shows groups collapsed and lets you answer at either level.

Task	How often	Minutes	Takes out of you	Sits in your mind	Breaks your day	The doing	The carrying
Be the one the children come to when they are upset	every weekday	10	draining	on your mind	mostly flexible	1.05	2.00
why Named as a task rather than a trait on purpose. It is a real, repeated demand on one person's attention, and naming it is often the first time the other partner sees it as anything at all.
Have the difficult conversations with the children	every six weeks	45	wipes you out	never leaves your head	mostly flexible	0.15	1.14

Which households get these

A new household is seeded from its own answers, so most of these rows only appear where they apply.

Be the one the children come to when they are upset — households with children, not seeded into a new household — found by searching
Have the difficult conversations with the children — households with a child of 6 or over, not seeded into a new household — found by searching

Something missing, or something weighted wrong?

This is the part of Champignon that is genuinely unfinished, and the part a person outside this household can fix. Two routes, neither of which needs an account:

Something we don't have — a task you do that isn't listed here.
A weight that looks wrong — tell us which row, and what it should sit above or below. A comparison is actionable; feels wrong on its own isn't.

What happens next, and how a weight actually changes, is on Contribute.