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Paying attention to each other
3 rows. A group is the level between a category and a task: one thing a person could hand over whole, split into the rows it actually takes. The app shows groups collapsed and lets you answer at either level.
| Task | How often | Minutes | Takes out of you | Sits in your mind | Breaks your day | The doing | The carrying |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Notice how your partner is and adjust to it cognitive only | every day | 3 | takes something | never leaves your head | fits anywhere | 0.39 | 3.08 |
| why The row the whole category exists for, and the one most exposed to N5. Vigilance 5 and energy 3: continuous, never resolves, and quietly costly. | |||||||
| Listen to and hold someone else's stress about work or family | twice a week | 20 | draining | on your mind | mostly flexible | 0.84 | 1.50 |
| Remember what is going on for them and ask about it | once a week | 10 | a little | on your mind | fits anywhere | 0.18 | 1.21 |
Which households get these
A new household is seeded from its own answers, so most of these rows only appear where they apply.
- Listen to and hold someone else's stress about work or family — not seeded into a new household — found by searching
- Notice how your partner is and adjust to it — not seeded into a new household — found by searching
- Remember what is going on for them and ask about it — not seeded into a new household — found by searching
Something missing, or something weighted wrong?
This is the part of Champignon that is genuinely unfinished, and the part a person outside this household can fix. Two routes, neither of which needs an account:
- Something we don't have — a task you do that isn't listed here.
- A weight that looks wrong — tell us which row, and what it should sit above or below. A comparison is actionable; feels wrong on its own isn't.
What happens next, and how a weight actually changes, is on Contribute.