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Keeping in touch
4 rows. A group is the level between a category and a task: one thing a person could hand over whole, split into the rows it actually takes. The app shows groups collapsed and lets you answer at either level.
| Task | How often | Minutes | Takes out of you | Sits in your mind | Breaks your day | The doing | The carrying |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Keep in touch with your partner's family on the household's behalf | every two weeks | 20 | takes something | on your mind | fits anywhere | 0.19 | 1.01 |
| why The canonical kin-keeping task (di Leonardo 1987; F5.4). Energy 3 rather than 2 because doing a relationship's maintenance on someone else's behalf is effortful in a way that doing your own is not. Whichever partner holds this, it is rarely the one whose family it is. | |||||||
| Send news, photos and updates to family | once a week | 10 | barely notice it | sits with you | fits anywhere | 0.17 | 0.79 |
| Write and send thank-you notes | every three months | 25 | a little | on your mind | mostly flexible | 0.04 | 0.77 |
| Write and send the seasonal cards | once a year | 150 | a little | on your mind | needs a slot | 0.06 | 0.73 |
Which households get these
A new household is seeded from its own answers, so most of these rows only appear where they apply.
- Write and send the seasonal cards — in winter, not seeded into a new household — found by searching
Something missing, or something weighted wrong?
This is the part of Champignon that is genuinely unfinished, and the part a person outside this household can fix. Two routes, neither of which needs an account:
- Something we don't have — a task you do that isn't listed here.
- A weight that looks wrong — tell us which row, and what it should sit above or below. A comparison is actionable; feels wrong on its own isn't.
What happens next, and how a weight actually changes, is on Contribute.